Ex boyfriend problems cont...........?

Hi bsjeans01, I'm so sorry for you I really am, unfortunately it was your first love as well. The first thing you must do is try to control your emotions. For unless you do that every time you think about him or accidentally see him you will start crying again. And you don't want to let him see that, because it wont make any difference, and it doesn't show any self-respect. If you look around you the vast majority of girls, wont be walking along with their first boyfriend, so that means all those girls got over their first boyfriend. They probably went through exactly the same heartache as you are experiencing now. So take a little comfort from that. You've already tried to many times to get back with him. You need to understand that he doesn't feel the same way as you do. He's made this break because he doesn't see you as long term. What you do is keep yourself respect, and dignity and move on without him. You have to start the job of healing your wounds, and before you can do that you have to tell yourself that it's over. You know he's been avoiding you, he doesn't reply to your texts and he never answers when you call him. I don't like saying all these things to a pretty young girl whose heart is broken. It gives me no joy to tell you to move on. Of course he was your first love, and the price you pay when your first love leaves you is heartbreak and pain. But like all the other girls you will get through it. I know when I write this you will say I'll never get through it. But remember all the other girls I talked about earlier, most of them have been through what you are now going through. They've found someone who loves them and they love him back. In the end that is what you will do. Look you will never forget your first love, the pain will go but the memory of him will always be in your heart, what you need to do is to make sure that the memory only takes up the tiniest part of your heart. For you need the rest of your heart when you find the next guy that will love and care for you, and you will feel the same for him. So hold your head up high, and walk with dignity, and find this guy who is out there and he's waiting for you to find him. And when you do find him, as you surely will, that's when you need almost all of your heart, and you will give that to him. I don't have a magic wand that takes away pain, but believe me even time takes away pain. But you really don't need time to take it away from you. That's just wasting part of your life and life is precious so you don't need to waste any of it. So find this guy and love him as he will love you, and you will find the pain you have will go much more quickly than just waiting for time. Realise this love you had is all in the past, and you need your heart for the present and the future. In the end I wish you happiness.